Afraid Of Relationships?

Oh my God! Not once more! The way in which she looked into your eyes you knew it! It is the “L” word coming at you like a runaway train. You’ll be able to see right through her and browse her thoughts, to the purpose that you simply start planning your exit strategy. She’s going to say it - ready? “I LOVE you!!!” Aaargh! Now that she’s chosen you, there is no means you’ll even need to attempt to make it work. You begin rebuilding the wall that you just had so comfortably ignored since you didn’t suppose she’d go for you for the “long run.”

She begins speaking about opening her coronary heart and also you being “Mr. Right!” That is method outside of your consolation zone - carefree relationship - the informal intercourse and whole freedom to come back and go as you wish. In addition to, she’s talking about how vital you’re to her life and that she will be able to cherish you eternally - yes, the “F” phrase: FOREVER! To high it off, there’s talk of you having to meet the mother and father subsequent week.

You already know you want her. You have emotions for her, but don’t know what precisely they are yet. It’s too early to tell. What is the rush any approach? Why should you spoil the enjoyable by making this so much greater than it’s and so soon? You look for the emergency brakes so that you could get off this train. This baby is serious.

Does this state of affairs sound familiar? You and the particular person you are relationship (cannot name her a girlfriend yet) are on the identical path, when suddenly at some point you see your future go up in flames. You’ve got concern and panic in your face and it’s not as a result of the world is ending - it’s “concern of commitment.”

Years in the past this concern was principally associated with men. But today, a lot of women undergo from the identical syndrome and avoid a real relationship like the plague. I imagine this is among the the reason why increasingly girls are getting married later than ever before. There are, nevertheless, issues with this as well. Girls who wait longer - say of their late 30s or typically early 40s - to get married for the first time, have a substantial amount of history of relationships - growing the chance of dangerous experiences. As a result, the holes for the filter via which the following male love-interest in their lives must move turn into smaller.

It is human nature and often subliminal for us to gauge the whole lot that’s occurring to us in opposition to our previous encounters. If a lady has been damage by a person she loved earlier than, your job in the relationship is an uphill battle. She is going to be gun-shy and you may find yourself paying the price for another man’s mistreatment of your girl friend. But, what number of males have the patience or the curiosity to stay round for the drama and attempt to “sell” themselves to a lady whose past nonetheless haunts her?

Some women might argue that their fear of commitment or gradual emotional response is due to their independence. These days, numerous girls have their very own careers, purchase their very own automobiles, own their very own houses, furnish their homes to their own style and have made their houses their sanctuaries. The identical means that males have traditionally been uncomfortable altering their lives to have a relationship or - gasp - say sure to marriage, ladies are reluctant to have to share their house with a person and at the least partially surrender their independence for a relationship. This not solely outcomes into a larger variety of single or unattached women and men, but straight impacts the size of an average relationship or a marriage in a destructive way. In addition, in comparison with even 30 years in the past, increasingly more women are college educated and understand they’ve an excessive amount of authorized rights defending them if they should choose the divorce route. Due to this fact, except their spiritual beliefs stop them, they now not subscribe to the old-fashioned idea of staying with their husband via thick and thin.

In consequence the inherent and old school notion of relationships and, specifically the very best type of social commitment - marriage - has endlessly changed. This is so evident that the wedding vows may need to alter from “… ’til demise do us part” to “… ’til no longer convenient!”

If you’re going by way of a similar situation with your Listed below are some things to think about discussing together with her should you’re keen to swallow your “male delight!” - if just to understand girls better:

Did she think there isn’t any chemistry and he or she could not let you know? It is a tough one. Your definition of “chemistry” may be miles away from hers.

Is there one other particular person she’s curious about? She might’ve been relationship a couple of person and is now at the level the place she needs to make a decision. She could also be attempting to be good to you and let you down easy by saying that she’s afraid of commitment.

Did you move to quick? Just like men, women may freak out if a person reveals and discusses his emotions. This will often be more so a difficulty with girls who are past their late 30s.

Did you move to gradual? If you’ve been too patient and waiting for her to provide you a sign so that you can take the relationship to the following degree, then you’ll have made the connection stale!

Have been you on totally different paths? You close your eyes and think about the relationship and see yourself on the same path as her and think every thing is going fantastic. She, on the other hand, received off the exit 2 miles ago. You must have subtle checkpoints to make certain of the place you both are - even as soon as you might be married.

Was she testing you when she said she wants to break it off? Human nature, whatever the gender, often gets in the way of open communications. She could mean “white” when she says “black” or “yes” when she says “no.” Right here is the catch: In case you think she’s testing you and respond accordingly, you might be wrong after which create greater problems. What do you do then? I hate to inform you this, however you’ve gotten your finger on the trigger and no one can tell you what the fitting reply is. Go together with your intestine feelings.

Did she expect you to place up a combat? Once more, it is so hard to tell. For those who really like this particular person and want to ensure you’ve given it your all to keep her then let her know that. Alternatively, if she’s actually completed with you she’ll allow you to know. Then transfer on, even when that makes her suppose you did not care enough.

Should you give her non permanent area or make it permanent and move on? Individuals make mistakes. She may’ve thought she’s over you. What if she made the flawed choice? After distancing your self from her, assuming things didn’t get ugly between you two, casually test in with her and see how she’s doing. She’ll provide you with a hook again into the connection if there is an interest. If not, again, move proper on.

Are you too nice? Believe it or not some women get pleasure from being with a “good man” for a brief time frame but are bored with him quickly. This is not to say you have to be imply or play games. Just know your limits. Higher yet, attempt to discover hers.

Did her friends or family not approve of you? This could be a severe deal breaker, and never the way you think. It’s true that if her mates or family do not like you it’ll impression her opinion of your future with her. But hardly ever does a girl decide primarily based on their response alone. However, if commitment is in actual fact a problem for her you’re in deep trouble in the event that they DO like you. The reason is that the confirmation coming from these of us will prove that you might be the best individual for her and she could panic and press the “crimson button.” You’re walking a wonderful line between delaying this kind of a meeting and elevating suspicion that you don’t wish to meet her family and friends for another reason.

Do you think she is trustworthy and the true drawback is her concern of dedication? Persons are fairly complicated and it takes a special character to be honest, open and direct about their reasoning behind their deeds - specifically when there’s someone else’s feelings are involved. You possibly can attempt to guess, yet you could be just as profitable betting on horses. The best you can do is to be open about your personal ideas and feelings, hoping that eventually she’ll observe along and return the favor.

Seinfeld Rails Against Gaga's Less-Than-Ladylike Behavior

In a classic episode of his hit show, Jerry Seinfeld created the "second spitter" theory to defend Mets legend Keith Hernandez against Kramer's accusations, but the real-life comedian was less forgiving of Lady Gaga's obscene behavior at Citi Field.

"This woman is a jerk, I hate her," Seinfeld half-joked during a radio interview.

Apparently, the 56-year-old comedian was not happy that the Mets allowed the 24-year-old pop star to be the (temporary) master of his domain."I can't believe they put her in my [VIP] box, which I paid for," Seinfeld vented.


Gaga was ushered to Seinfeld's luxury box after she made an obscene gesture to paparazzi-and fans-from her behind-home-plate seats. Apparently, Gaga was upset that photographers were snapping pics as she tried to enjoy America's favorite sport while scantily clad. (Considering she showed up during the fifth inning, Gaga was clearly intent on watching the game.)

When she asked to be moved, fans started booing her and she responded with the features. By the seventh inning, the Mets staff had moved her to Seinfeld's empty box.

"You give people the finger and you get upgraded? Is that the world we're living in now?" Seinfeld asked WFAN's host.Referring to her stage name, Seinfeld pointed out, "You take one 'A' off that and you've got 'gag.'" (He gets an 'A' for pretty clever insults.)

"She is talented though," Seinfeld eventually conceded regarding Gaga's artistry. "I don't know why she's doing this stuff."

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Since the incident, the Mets have publicly apologized to long-time fan Seinfeld for their "quick decision" to give Gaga his box.

Gaga, however, wasn't finished striking out. After the Yankees lost to the Mets last Friday, Gaga talked her way past security and visited the Yankees clubhouse. Dressed in not much more than a half-unbuttoned Yankees jersey, the Manhattan-born pop star met with Alex Rodriguez and Robinson Cano, telling them how honored she was to be in the hallowed locker room.

Although it was initially reported that Yankees co-chair Hal Steinbrenner permanently banned her from the clubhouse for her outrageous unauthorized visit, general manager Brian Cashman has clarified that she's welcome to visit again.

"Celebrities aren't banned," Cashman said. "If Michael Jordan showed up here he would have access [to the clubhouse], but not after a loss." Cashman insists the incident was "not her fault," and it was a case of "the wrong time and the wrong place."

While stories of Gaga raising a ruckus might not come as a shock, her recent behavior stands in sharp contrast with what she recently told Rolling Stone for a cover story.
When asked about testing "borderline positive" for lupus, a disease her family has a history of, Gaga assured her fans she's changing her outrageous habits to ensure her health.

"I reduce stress in my life to make sure I don't develop [the disease]," she said. "I make much more of an effort now to minimize the drama or the stress [in my life]."


Keeping in mind her antics at the Yankees and Mets stadiums, Her Ladyship must hold different definitions of "stress" and "drama" when it comes to her brazen lifestyle.

Perfect Makeup with Perfect Makeup Brushes

Regardless of whether you are talented in doing make up, even a genius like Michelangelo wouldn’t have been able to paint the Sistine chapel with out the proper tools. “A bad workman cannot blame his tools”, however this extremely accurate sentence doesn’t apply to make up. With out a good brush, even an experienced make up artist wouldn’t be able to create a true masterpiece.
Brush made of soft bristles: it gathers the eye shadow perfectly and spreads it on bigger areas; it should be rounded at the end and quit flat, preferably made of squirrel hair.

Brush made of flexible bristles: flat, rounded at the end, shaped like a “cat’s tongue”, made of quite stiff sable hair or high quality nylon; it is used for the precise application of eye shadow and contouring the eye shape.

Oblique brush: It is used for drawing thicker lines right above the lash line, underlining the outer corners of the eye; with its help it’s possible to spread the darkest eye shadow precisely along the crease without any problems.

Applicator: A comfortable applicator should have a long handle and changeable endings. It cannot be too soft and flexible, because then it won’t guarantee proper pressure on the skin. The applicator puts on a thicker layer of eye shadow than a brush, while at the same time, allowing us to create a more intensive make up style.

How To Deal With People Who Put You Down

Dealing with people who people who put you down can be a painful and hurtful experience.
Sometimes, the scars even last a lifetime.
I know I’ve certainly experienced put downs from people at various times throughout my life. I’m not sure it’s possible to go through life not meeting one of these people somewhere along the way so the best strategy seems to be to learn how to deal with them prior to interacting with them.

Here are my suggestions on how to deal with people who put you down:
People Who Put You Down Are Hurt Themselves

The first thing to know is that a happy, self confident, person does not put others down. They might provide constructive criticism but they won’t put others down. This tells you a lot about the person who criticizes you. Some people are very negative about others because:
- they need to make themselves feel like they're in control or more powerful or to cover up their own insecurities
- they’ve experienced a trauma of their own in the past and they don’t know how to deal with the pain so they'll hurt others as a defense mechanism.

People’s tirades against you will probably reveal to you just how unhappy and disillusioned and frustrated that person is with life, and that's their problem, not yours. Knowing this can go a long way to being able to detach from the comments. If you know it has more to do with the person making the comments than about you, it makes it far easier not feel hurt by what’s been said.

Emotionally detaching from a person like this can be hard to do but you need to refuse to become involved. That person wants you to feel badly about yourself. Don’t give them that power.

Comebacks and Comments for People Who Put You Down

The French have a great saying that translated means, “spirit of the stairs”. It’s all those comments and comebacks you think of later that you wished you’d said to the person at the time. But, really, it’s no use sinking to that person’s level. That’s what they want. They want to get a reaction out of you, they want you to feel bad and their intent quite likely was to hurt you. So, by responding with similar put downs against them really only plays into their plan and ends up hurting yourself. You also don’t want to end up with regrets later over what you said in anger. So, what can you say? Try one of the following:
Thank you for your opinion
A response which will throw most criticizers off is to simply say, “Thank you for your opinion” and then just leave it at that. This effectively ends the conversation. They’re waiting for you to respond with anger or a comeback of your own and when you don’t, there’s nothing left for them to say.

Thank you for your gift but I think you should keep it.
When you feel that someone is attacking you can say to them:
“Thank you for your ‘gift’ - but I think you should keep it.”
Or
“That’s very generous of you but I can’t accept that.”

With this comment, it's a reminder to people how powerful their words are and that they should be more aware of what they're saying. Words can be used for good or evil and people tend to forget how damaging their words can be against someone's self esteem. It's also a reminder to you that it’s their anger not yours. You don’t need to take on someone else’s burden. They need to deal with their anger. They may want you to accept their hatred and anger as your own, but it’s really a “gift” that you don't need.

If you take their comments to heart and let them fester inside of you then you've taken on their anger. Just let it go. You don't need it.

What You Can Do To Help Your Child Lose Weight

f your child is overweight it can be a difficult situation. It’s important to talk with them about losing weight and getting healthy, but how do you go about it? Not all of us know instinctively. There are ways to show your children the path healthy living. Following are some suggestions to help your child get on track to weight loss.

It seems seem simple, but the most powerful thing you can do for your family is to lead be a good example. If your children see you eating healthy they will, too. When you prepare meals make sure they are nutritious, as well as delicious-tasting. Encourage your entire family to eat healthy food and take nutrition seriously. Don’t single out any children. Keep healthy snacks in your cupboards instead of junk food.

Don’t think of food as a way of rewarding yourself and teach your children the same. If you bribe your children with sugary treats for good behavior or chores they will confuse the role food plays in their lives. Emphasize that healthy eating should be a lifestyle not a reward system.

After you get your diet under control, focus on the getting active. Encourage the entire family to move more by going out for organized or intramural sports. Even simple family walks after dinner each night will help them get fit and think of physical activity as a natural part of their day.

Don’t forget to be supportive. It may not seem like it is important, but your child looks to you to boost them up when they are down or unmotivated. Have a conversation with your child about food and set weight loss goals that are realistic. Be sure to plan weight loss goals that are long term. Focus on overall health rather than what the scale shows.

If you make a few small changes you could see big rewards. Your child will keep the weight off for good and embrace a healthy lifestyle. They will look to you as their parent to see what steps to take.

Your child will be more likely to succeed if you help them by cooking healthy meals every day. Purge your home of any junk food and show them how to select healthy alternatives. Find other ways to reward them then with food.

As their parent, it’s your job to teach your child the role eating plays in a healthy lifestyle. Be supportive and help your child get to an appropriate weight through exercise and a balanced diet.